A little on me, your writer, The Mild Millennial
I’m really honored you’ve chosen to spend your time with me. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through something that has led you here. I hope I can help you in your journey going forward.
I’ve been on this journey a long time now and want to give a helping hand to those behind me on the ladder of this hellscape healing from a narc can be.
Being a Christian and a victim of abuses can be so gray and difficult, especially when trying to reconcile behavior, grace, mercy, God’s love, and forgiveness with trauma, pain, gas-lighting, abuse, shame and secrets. I’m here to listen and share what I did to heal and learned to further help myself in this journey
It’s not easy, I know. With a culture so bent on fitting you into a box it can feel so isolating to hold on to Christian values while trying to navigate the dating world.
I was raised in the church and call myself a Believer. I’ve experienced many facets of life; pockets of religion, politics, relationships, and abuse. I grew up quickly and had to face some things many of you will soon, if you haven’t already.
I’ve counseled suicidal teens, joined a youth group full of teen moms, goths, ex-Amish kids, and good church kids (You know the ones I mean) in my middle and high school years. I’ve met Presidents, Congressmen, and other national leaders in my lifetime. I write. I’m curvy. I vote
All in all I’m here to tell you, I may sound like I’ve got it all together but that’s far from true. I deal with some of the same things you do. I just write about them.
The Mild Millennial
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I just found your blessed blog and I think it’s awesome. I’m from Australia divorced Christian girl who too is navigating the dating world. I’ve read all your posts (how’s that for encouragement). I resonate with all of them and have clapped in aggreeance with so much. Please keep writing cos I need more modern REAL non purist Christ loving talk. So many of us do. What I’d love for you to write about (if it’s sonething that you feel is a relevant for you to share) is – finding a great guy who isn’t a believer. From my experience the only single Christian guys that are left (prob about 10 in total) are alittle odd deeply unattractive (to me) and so awkward. It’s so sad that there are so many great guys who can banter with a woman and be fun without giving you an impression that they completely FREAK OUT at making a move. So many scared Christian guys who may as well wear tshirt with one slogan I’M STILL A VIRGIN CAN YOU TELL?, What is a intelligent attractive socially ok Christian girl to do with the remnants of avail Christian men? Even online is the same.
Thankyou for starting your blog and remember WE NEED YOUR VOICE
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I’m so flattered by your words! This was the perfect thing wake up to. I’m so sorry you’ve had to be launched back into the dating world. It’s hardly fair. It can be rough out here. I will absolutely put your topic on the list. I’d love to tackle that in a few weeks or so. I’m so happy you’ve found me on here, and my content is relative. I’m so excited for the new things coming too! May this be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. 😉
My brother suggested I may like this blog. He used to be entirely right. This post truly made my day. You cann’t imagine just how so much time I had spent for this information! Thanks!
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I have been absent for some time, but now I remember why I used to love this blog. Thank you, I’ll try and check back more often. How frequently you update your web site?
I like this website so much, saved to favorites.
Wow! So proud of you! I have daughter’s your age and I experienced many variables of the NPD malignant mother and a more passive NPD father.
I only wish I’d understood this “spiritual” condition when I was a teen, because I kept crawling back to victimization for more abuse until my early 30’s when I realized enough was enough. I finally never went back.
I have met MANY NPD characters in my life- they are naturally attracted and aggressively pursue protagonists super empathy like myself- so I am constantly fending off these “feeders”.
I’m getting faster and sharper at identifying them as I go, but it’s definitely made my Christian walk difficult, but more and more manageable.
I most wish I’d kept my two oldest daughter’s (your age) from her manipulations, as they have caused near permanent divisions between me and them. By her own mother’s advice (and my own wisdom)- I have kept my youngest from her influence of “how horrible I am” and her playing the victim (after all, she did her best- which is very little with NPD parents to empathize and relate to normal functioning people with emotions).
God bless you for your blog. I hope more young women discover this and find hope and healing in escaping these types- family or not.
Peace unto you